Dear girl,
You are sitting at home and you scroll through your newsfeed, there it is…your best friends went out without you or family and coworkers had a get together and you simply were not invited. Or if you try plan something, no one can come or has other plans…thats life its okay we are all busy. But the lie that the enemy is whispering “your friends don’t have time for you” and “nobody wants to hang out with you or be your friend”.
Someone you love, whether family, a parent or friend or boyfriend or husband…left from your life and isn’t coming back. The lie of “I wasn’t good enough to make them stay, they didn’t want me”.
You hear snickers and whispers and then they get quiet when you enter. You wonder if they were talking about you. Important information wasn’t communicated to you, you were simply left out of the loop. Once again the lie of “they were talking about you, they don’t like you”.
You are the only single girl left, your friends are all engaged or married. You are the only one of your friends or siblings without children. You feel like you’re waiting on a husband or maybe you and husband are waiting and desperately praying for a baby. The sting of “you’re single enjoy it”, “you’re not married yet, someone needs to snatch you up!”, “when do you want to have kids?” or the classic “you’re not a mom you wouldn’t understand”. These kinds of comments make you feel like the world is moving forward and you’re stuck. The comments from good-intention family and friends, or strangers who don’t know your story…comments that sting and make you believe the lies from the enemy.
The fear of missing out.
Your creative new idea was shot down just as soon as you got excited about it. The lie of “that was stupid why did you try that?”
You give your best and try to accomplish what you can, your progress is evident but the way the “constructive criticism” or guidance was delivered made you believe the lie of “you’re not good enough”or “you can’t do this right”.
Insecure. Uninvited. Inadequate. Left out. Lonely. Abandoned. Unaccepted. Rejection. All of these are lies.
You, my dear sister are not the only one who has ever felt this way. I, too know what its like because I am just like you. I have felt rejection or the constant pity party of being left out or forgotten or looked over. Pity parties are no fun when you’re the only one with an invitation! Duh!
In some way, shape, or form we have all experienced some kind of disappointment or rejection in life. Whether it was intentional or not. Sometimes people don’t realize they hurt someone’s feelings.
How do we deal with this type of hurt? The answer…we go to the truth instead of falling for the lies. Those lies come directly from the enemy who wants to destroy you.
I am who HE says I am.
I am loved. I am created by Him. I am treasured and cherished. I am His beloved. I am beautiful, not ugly. I am not a mistake. I am wanted. I am good enough. I am worthy of His love. I am strong, but my weaknesses glorify His strength. I am smart, not stupid. The only thing stupid are Satan’s lies. I am not perfect but His mercy and grace renews me. I am not alone, He is with me. I am not abandoned because He has never left me. I don’t have to feel left of people’s plans because His plans are far greater than what I think I’m missing out in life. He gives me what I need rather than what I always want. His timing is far greater than my day to day calendar and schedule. My life is not meant to be lived by someone else and neither can I live theirs. I can only be who He made me to be. My worth, I was born with nothing I will do or won’t do can make my worth any more or less. His creation is worthy of His love. My hope is secure.
Here are some verses to remind you:
When you feel alone:
Isaiah 41:10- “Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”
When you feel insecure:
Psalm 139:13-14 –“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
When you feel unworthy:
1 Peter 2:9- “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”
When you feel like you’re missing out:
Ecclesiastes 3:11– “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart, yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to.”
-Sincerely, the girl who used to feel less than who now knows true worth. ❤
S
Hope For Her Heart 